This morning I decided to do something different with the boys. During the vigil on Friday night, there were a few problems but I didn’t find out about it until Saturday morning. Needless to say, I was a little bit upset and that is describing it lightly. I had words with my leaders involved, and it wasn’t pretty. After breakfast, I talked with the dorm about behavior during the vigil.
I told the boys that next week is Holy Week so at that time we will begin our study of the last week of Christ. I asked the boys, “What is my biggest problem?” Of course, the boys knew and they said, “Your anger.” I told them that this has been a tough weekend for me, and I knew how I reacted was wrong and was a sin. Even though I apologized, the problem still exists and it will continue to affect those I love until I overcome it. I said to the boys, “Sometimes we seek the advice of family or friends or even professionals. Who we should seek first, is always be the Lord.
When Cain was angry, God asked him a question. “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast?” Genesis 4:6. This is the same question He asks us when we are angry. In order to understand what the problem is we need to clarify the reason why. Many times we don’t want to admit that we caused the problem or that we should react differently. I should have reacted differently and talked in a kinder and gentler way. It would have been better.” God’s word says, “Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.” Galatians 6:1
“Then God gives Cain the answer without waiting for an answer. We need to listen and take God’s advice. ‘If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.’ Isn’t that simple? If you respect your teachers, you won’t get on report. If you control your tongue, you won’t get into a fight. If you study, you won’t get a bad grade on your quizzes and tests. If you don’t do what is right then you will get angry and the problem will get worse.
“God tells us what we must do. ‘We must master it.’ How can we do that? By getting rid of it.” Colossians 3:7-10, “You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from you lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.” “What causes the anger that we have? Get rid of it. If we hold on to it, we will continue to be angry and we will never get better.” We will continue our study tomorrow.
Of course, I have to tell you that Candy is more than just an encourager, she knows when to give me a swift kick and get me back to my senses. She told me this morning, “When you start thinking about things and putting yourself in a bad attitude, think ‘Things could always be worse. I promise it will cause you to re-evaluate your attitude and your way of thinking. That statement, ‘Things could always be worse,’ reminds me of God’s grace. I don’t deserve to be as well as I am. It reminds me that others do have it worse than me. It will cause your day to be a bit brighter, and you’ll be a lot more grateful for what God has granted you.” I am blessed to have her as my wife, my helpmate, my everything.
Tomorrow is one of our boy’s birthday, and he made sure I knew and didn’t forget. Starting on Friday, he asked me to check the calendar to see when he had a birthday. He said, “I think it is on the fourth.” Yesterday, he made a comment to me that his birthday is on Tuesday. Today, in front of the other boys, he said, “It’s my birthday tomorrow. Isn’t that right, Lee?” All I could do was shake my head. I guess he must think that I make great cupcakes. 🙂
Lee and Candy