Yesterday the rules for relationships at Casa were revisited and I can honestly say, there were quite a few who weren’t happy. Mike desired for the dorm parents to talk to our children about the rules so after the boys finished their chores, we met in the sala. I told the boys that God has blessed this home, and sometimes we can forget how much we have been blessed. We can become complacent in our faith and with our relationships. We desire for the children to have godly relationships and to live for Him. Even though this is a Christian home, that doesn’t mean everyone is a Christian. It is like the parable of the wheat and tares. They grow together and it is difficult to tell them apart, yet in time it becomes evident.
I said, “As you grow, your relationship with each other changes. You begin to have feelings for each other that are normal yet as parents, we need to teach and train you about what you are going through. Of course, when you don’t get what you want, there is rebellion. You think that the ‘adults’ don’t want you to be happy. It is not us we want you to please, it is the Lord.
“This is why I try to teach you God’s word everyday, because that is what it is about…a daily relationship with our Lord and Savior. To keep Him in your heart and to understand what His will is for all of us. When we have a relationship with the Lord, it is the foundation of our relationships that we make in our lives.
“God’s word says, ‘Everything is permissible for me – but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me – but I will not be mastered by anything. Food for the stomach and the stomach for food – but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.’
“The world has problems, and it will continue to have problems because we are selfish. We think only of ourselves and not what God desires. We have no desire to stand in the gap for the Lord. Ezequiel 22:30, ‘I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none.’
“satan looks for the gaps, our weaknesses and uses them for his purpose. What better way to destroy families and relationships than to use our selfish desires and cause doubt in relationships? Most importantly, our relationship with Him. There is a phrase, ‘Our best defense is offense.’ Our offense is prayer and to stand in the gap for the Lord. To be ready for any attack that may come.
“What do we need? The armor of God. Ephesians 6:10-13, ‘Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore, put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.”
“To stand. To stand in the gap for the Lord. To be obedient. When you are obedient, you receive His blessing. When you receive His blessing, you bless others and they benefit from your obedience. Obedience is patience and patience is love. Our Lord loves us so much that he is patient with us and wants us to be patient. When we are patient, we will be blessed. In your relationship with Him and with others.”
In the afternoon I took the boys to the school field so they could play soccer. More fun and less wear and tear on their shoes. Of course, I had my “helpers” with me as we weeded around the flagpole and watered the flowers. This work was mandatory for these particular helpers. Little by little, it looks better. After about ten minutes, one of the boys asked, “Can I go and play now?” I just smiled and said, “Not right now.” They worked an hour, and then I let them play. They worked hard.
Tonight we had our leader meal. It was different since a few of our leaders could not participate due to behavioral issues. Candy and I want our leaders to lead by example and when they don’t, it is necessary to discipline them as we discipline the younger boys. God has given us wonderful leaders to help us with this ministry, and we are blessed. Hopefully my cooking will not cause problems in the morning. Candy is a better cook than I am. We miss her being here for the meal.
Lee and Candy